Remember this quote by Albert Einstein? Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. When we find ourselves in yet another difficult and unhealthy relationship, we need to immediately recognize a change is necessary. That change may need to take place with us first.

I remember in my third marriage during a difficult time, I was seeking God for answers when He spoke to me specifically and told me I was a slanderer. Then He proceeded to show me like a video things I did and said. I was shocked to face those things. I had to swallow the truth. The fact that I was indeed guilty. But, had I not asked God to show me where I needed to make changes in my own personal character I would not have been aware of the changes that needed to take place.

Once those things were exposed I was free to willingly take the Word of God and apply changes as necessary. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9. Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ. Philippians 1:6.

It’s not easy to take a good long look in the mirror and to admit our own flaws, but once we do, we are free to make a change. This is another step in the healing process from broken marriages and relationships. It is of the Lord's mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness. Lamentations 3:22-23.

So go ahead, be willing to get real with yourself, your thoughts, your actions, your words. Be ready to recognize your own faults, be sorry for your mistakes, and ask God to help you change. To glorify Him and make you a better person. You are worth it because God say’s you are!

On a journey of healing and hope with you,

Terri Lynne